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LOVE Questionnaire #2

1. What is LOVE (in your opinion)?

For platonic love: deeply caring for the wellbeing of another person. Connecting with them

on an emotional, and sometimes intellectual, level.

For romantic love: all of the above, with the addition of a physical longing for the object of

your affections, often, although not always, accompanied by a desire to possess that person to

some degree, for them to belong to you, to belong to each other.

When I think of love, I think of romantic love. That’s nice to know, so thank you for the

insight.

2. Do you believe in love?

These days, in the same way an agnostic believes in God, if that makes any sense.

3. What are your dreams re above?

I stopped dreaming about romantic love a few years ago; it just never seems to work out. I

figure if it turns up one day that will be a nice surprise.

4. Who was your (childhood) sweetheart?

The heart surgeon’s son from down the street. We were thirteen. He asked my permission

before he gave me my first kiss. It was a strangely clinical experience; he seemed to be

focused on his technique, which was actually pretty appalling. I eventually decided he loved

his skateboard more than he loved me, which looking back on myself at thirteen is entirely

understandable.

5. When did you first feel butterflies in your tummy?

Primary school. What used to be known as standard 3. Sitting next to a boy called Brett

discussing my science project. I’m sure the butterflies were mine alone. I was a truly

unfortunate looking child.

6. Were you ever besotted with anyone? Why and for how long?

My first proper boyfriend, who I met at age 15. It took me ten years to get over him. I have

no idea why, he was a tosser. I’ll blame adolescent hormonal imbalances.

7. What has changed for you now (present day) with the word ‘love’?

It makes me roll my eyes now.

8. Have your ever written love poetry? Or love notes?

A ghastly poem about the first boyfriend. Cringe. Thankfully I kept it to myself.

9. Do you believe in love at first sight?

Yes. It has happened to me twice.

10. What is the most (important) lesson you have learnt through your life, when it comes to

love? Please be specific:)

I tend to value my freedom more than I value love these days. Specifically, I have learned

that I am not good at compromising; it feels like a defeat and sometimes requires trust that

can be hard to give. Most relationships require some degree of compromise, and I would only

ever want an equal partnership, so this should be a natural part of the deal. It doesn’t come

naturally to me. I have a strong sense of wanting to be fair to others, so this is a stumbling

block; perhaps it makes me see something in myself that I don’t really want to see.

LOVE Questionnaire #1

1. What is LOVE (in your opinion)?
Honesty; attraction; laughter; giving; forgiveness; allowance; support; listening; talking; sharing; beauty; purpose of life.

2. Do you believe in love?
Yes.

3. What are your dreams re above?
I have finally found my life partner who embodies all of the above qualities and allows me to impart those qualities to him. My dream is for us to continue to love one another for the rest of our lives.

4. Who was your (childhood) sweetheart?
Testing my memory!!! Probably Daniel in primary school (aged about 9 or 10).

5. When did you first feel butterflies in your tummy?
Probably the above…??

6. Were you ever besotted with anyone? Why and for how long?
Goodness, yes – several times. Why = hard to define, probably because I unrealistically put those people on a pedestal and also because I have had a tendency to live in my own little world in the past. How long = until the relationship broke off, or if there wasn’t a relationship, until I met someone else.

7. What has changed for you now (present day) with the word ‘love’?
It is now about equality rather than me trying to please them constantly (and usually failing). And also I now allow myself to be loved, and feel less threatened by that notion.

8. Have your ever written love poetry? Or love notes?
Never actually – which surprises myself seeing I am a playwright as well as an actor.

9. Do you believe in love at first sight?
Yes – don’t all females…? 😉

10. What is the most (important) lesson you have learnt through your life, when it comes to love? Please be specific:)
Probably my response to question 7. And to let go of the past when it comes to love – its good and bad experiences – and focus on the present day and future.