Tagged: opinion

Project Whore: interview #11

1. What are your thoughts on prostitution?

I think that prostitution is a far more complex issue than either the media, the public or politicians treat it. It is a polarizing issue that people from the left and right wing kick around like a political football, while very few people actually have a clue what they are talking about. While I laude the liberal attitudes of New Zealand to regulate prostitution in brothels, I feel ashamed that we still don’t have safety nets put in place for the most vulnerable in our society in the twenty first century. Once a teenager gets a few convictions, and a drug habit society washes their hands of them and that is a tragedy I and others like me push to the back of our consciousness.

2. Have you slept with a sex worker before?

Yes

3. Why or why not?

I was young and both socially and sexually inadequate.

4. What does the word ‘whore’ mean to you?

An insult.

5. Do you belief in monogamy?

Yes.

6. Have you been solicited to, by a sex worker in the street? Male or female?

No.

7. Do you think sex work is a choice?

I think there are as many reasons for becoming a sex worker as there are sex workers working. In my opinion, there is no simple answer to this: Romanian teenagers kidnaped and forced to inject heroin clearly have no choice, while middle class girls who do the occasional escort services for extra money or to pay for college do. However, these are two extreme (and hopefully rare) ends of the spectrum. For the vast majority I cannot possibly comment, though I suspect that the further down the social ladder you go, the less choice is involved.

8. Are you heterosexual, bisexual or gay?

Heterosexual.

9. Are you tempted to pay for sex, if you want to experiment?

No.

10. Lastly, do you judge others who visit sex workers regularly?

​Probably, though I think that as a society we need some serious debate over our attitudes to sex and the way we teach it to our young adults. At best, we’re a little screamish about it; at worst, mediaeval and hysterical about it. That is the only way you are going to reduce the numbers of people seeking out prostitutes to fulfil their baser sexual proclivities.

Project Whore: Interview with Rhys Collier

Rhys is a visual artist based in Eden Terrace, Auckland. He works with recyclable materials in sculpture and enjoys painting. Rhys is also an actor and filmmaker.

1. What are your thoughts on prostitution?
I have mixed feelings. On one hand I feel it is a honest and necessary Profession. And paying for sex or providing that service should not be shameful. However being involved in this industry can be incredibly damaging to a person. Not to mention the violence, drug abuse and other criminal behavior that can go hand in hand. More transparency for the safety of all involved is needed.

2. Have you slept with a sex worker before?
I have never been a customer. I briefly dated a sex worker.

3. Why or why not?
I crave the intimacy that’s created during sex with someone you care for, rather than the physical act itself. This would be absent if I payed a random sex worker.

4. What does the word ‘whore’ mean to you?
I googled this phrase and came up with: a women you desire who sleeps with everyone but you. This is perfect as the term has a jealousy and rage attached, a word to be used by a man scorned by the women he desires.

5. Do you belief in monogamy?
I will commit without hesitation to a women I’m in love with. Is it the ideal choice for me, I’m not so sure.

6. Have you been solicited to, by a sex worker in the street? Male or female?
Yes but only half hearted efforts as I walk past.

7. Do you think sex work is a choice?
Yes for some. For others it seems to be where they are corralled by force, abuse or addiction.

8. Are you heterosexual, bisexual or gay?
Heterosexual

9. Are you tempted to pay for sex, if you want to experiment?
Not in New Zealand. In countries such as Thailand, Cuba or Brazil where sex work seems more open and accessible I have considered it, and may be tempted one day.

10. Lastly, do you judge others who visit sex workers regularly?
No its a legal, mutually beneficial transaction.

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Lee’s Thoughts On Playing A Woman For #whoreplay

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I was very excited (at last) to meet a (real-life) ‘Transgender’ woman to probe about what it feels like to transition from man-to-woman. So many questions arrived in my head – too many to verbalise. The main thing that intrigued me – was when did it happen? When was the first ‘instance’ you felt that you were born in the wrong body? The answer was 4 years old. Wow. I asked about hormones. As I already knew from Melissa and research, hormones definitely impact heavily on your sex drive, cause depression, you can also become impotent at times and feel generally unwell. What happens when I wear a short skirt? “Use duck tape. Be brave. Suck it up girl.” Magic words, that I will embrace.

Project whore: interview with ‘Mary Haddock-Staniland’

“Mary Haddock-Staniland is an energetic, larger than life, passionate, and out-there character, she has a determination to succeed and believes in squeezing every last drop out of life.

Mary is a superb MC, presenter, raconteur, blogger, voice over artist and occasional guest on TV and radio, along with being a savvy business woman. Mary has the ability to balance all of this all in a day! Over the last twelve years Mary has been something of a fixture on the Auckland social circuit. She has variously hosted beauty pageants, charity auctions, and even taken part in NZ Fashion Week events.”

1. What are your thoughts on prostitution?
Personally I don’t get it. Everyone in life has a choice. You decide what path you want to take in your life. You get out of life what you put in, and I think prostitution is the “easy way” out. The emotional and mental harm it must do to you is a concern to me, I wish I could go by sweep everyone up off the street and bring them back to me, and look after everyone, give them homes and jobs and show them that there is light at the end of the tunnel.

2. Have you slept with a sex worker before?
No, never.

3. Why or why not?
It isn’t something I’ve ever needed to do.

4. What does the word ‘whore’ mean to you?
Whore to me means someone who isn’t ok with who they are. Someone who goes out to get attention from the same or opposite sex.

5. Do you believe in monogamy?
I do, but I also think that people aren’t designed or built to be with the same person forever. These days relationships are more flexible, and I would personally see no issue with the changing face of mine, as long as both agreed.

6. Have you been solicited to, by a sex worker in the street? Male or female?
No I never have.

7. Do you think sex work is a choice?
Yes, I do. I understand both sides, for and against. But I think people should be allowed to be given a second chance, whatever that may be.

8. Are you heterosexual, bisexual or gay?
I am a Transgendered individual.

9. Are you tempted to pay for sex, if you want to experiment?
No, I’ve never been tempted to pay for sex.

10. Lastly, do you judge others who visit sex workers regularly?
I’ve spent my entire life being judged, I wouldn’t judge someone for visiting sex workers. It is their choice, you’re entitled to that.

Project Whore: interview with #whoreplay Sponsor

1. What are your thoughts on prostitution?
I think ‘decriminalisation of prostitution’ into NZ should stay. Personally, I don’t have any ambition to sleep with sex workers, however I don’t condone others that do.

2. Have you slept with a sex worker before?
No.

3. Why or why not?
Never had any inkling.

4. What does the word ‘whore’ mean to you?
Someone who sleeps with lots of people. The word ‘whore’ relates to both gender; and can be a derogatory term in society. I’m not offended by this word…

5. Do you believe in monogamy?
No.

6. Have you been solicited to, by a sex worker in the street? Male or female?
Yes, many times by both gender.

7. Do you think sex work is a choice?
No…Sometimes there are not other (genuine) options available, to the person concerned.

8. Are you heterosexual, bisexual or gay?
Heterosexual.

9. Are you tempted to pay for sex, if you want to experiment?
No, I don’t think so.

10. Lastly, do you judge others who visit sex workers regularly?
It is not my place to judge anyone. Nor my business – if a friend wants to sleep with a sex worker.

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Project Whore: interview #10

1. What are your thoughts on prostitution?
More negative than positive.

It’s not as bad as war, genocide, starvation, violence … but not as good as Christmas is for the middle class kids, good friends, being loved, or achieving a long-held ambition.

It’s the kind of thing I wouldn’t want to be part of my life or want to be part of my daughter or sons future, but is something I can easily understand how people end up involved in as providers or users.

2. Have you slept with a sex worker before?
No.

3. Why or why not?
Firstly because my catholic upbringing taught me sex was a sacred act to be reserved for marriage. That was a rigid guide-frame for my life until just a few years ago.

Secondly because I feel it degrades the dignity of both user and the sex worker.

Thirdly, probably as a result of the first two points, I don’t think I’d enjoy it.

Fourthly, there are many other things I’d rather spend money on.

4. What does the word ‘whore’ mean to you?
A pejorative reference to a woman who trades sex.

5. Do you believe in monogamy?
Yes. More important to me than diverse sexual experience is a deep, rich and committed relationship which I believe monogamy helps.

6. Have you been solicited to, by a sex worker in the street? Male or female?
No, not that I recall.

7. Do you think sex work is a choice?
Yes and no. Everything is a choice, so yes in that sense. Slavery and addiction limit the choices of some people to living any way they can (e.g. sex work) or dying. I’m not well enough informed to know what circumstanced generally lead people to sex work.

8. Are you heterosexual, bisexual or gay?
Hetro

9. Are you tempted to pay for sex, if you want to experiment?
No, see 3.3 above.

10. Lastly, do you judge others who visit sex workers regularly?

I try to stay out of the habit of judging people. It might be something that informs their social behaviour more generally, and if there is deceit of a committed partner involved I’d consider that wrong. But then there are lots of things wrong in this world…

Project Whore: interview #9

1. What are your thoughts on prostitution?
Don’t like it. It’s weird, I believe there should be some form of connection between two sexual partners and that connection shouldn’t be money.

2. Have you slept with a sex worker before?
No

3. Why or why not?
There’s no connection between 2 people if one is paying the other for sex. One person is doing it to satisfy themselves sexually, the other is doing it to make money. It’s bizarre.

4. What does the word ‘whore’ mean to you?
It’s a derogatory term for a sex worker, it’s very negative.

5. Do you belief in monogamy?
Yes

6. Have you been solicited to, by a sex worker in the street? Male or female?
Yeah, a couple times, not in New Zealand though.

7. Do you think sex work is a choice?
Yes

8. Are you heterosexual, bisexual or gay?
Heterosexual

9. Are you tempted to pay for sex, if you want to experiment?
No

10. Lastly, do you judge others who visit sex workers regularly?
I don’t know anyone who does so I haven’t needed to judge. I’d like to say; each to their own and not judge them, but I know that I would.