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LOVE Questionnaire #6

1. What is LOVE (in your opinion)?

Love is when you are connected to someone spiritually, emotionally and physically. It is unconditional and continues to evolve, and become stronger as you both grow, and age.

2. Do you believe in love?

Yes.

3. What are your dreams re above?

To be with someone who will let me be independent, free-spirited and ambitious – without the fear of them losing me.

4. Who was your (childhood) sweetheart?

A boy called Mark, when I was 5 years old.

5. When did you first feel butterflies in your tummy?

Very young, about 5 or 6 years of age.

6. Were you ever besotted with anyone? Why and for how long?

When I was in primary school for a few months. I am not sure why.

7. What has changed for you now (present day) with the word ‘love’?

I suppose I have become slightly cynical about relationships. I am not prepared to just be with anyone. I will always believe in love – that is all.

8. Have your ever written love poetry? Or love notes?

Yes, I have written hundreds of (love) letters & poems to a lover – over a 10 year duration. When he married, he refused to destroy my literature, or return them to me.

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LOVE Questionnaire #5

1. What is LOVE (in your opinion)?

Rainbows, ponies and unicorns.

2. Do you believe in love?

Yes

3. What are your dreams re above?

To be pragmatic, get PhD, be content.

4. Who was your (childhood) sweetheart?

A certain boy – prefer not to say

5. When did you first feel butterflies in your tummy?

5 years

6. Were you ever besotted with anyone? Why and for how long?

No.

7. What has changed for you now (present day) with the word ‘love’?

Love used to be about being one unit, now it is about being an individual in your own right and building a bridge between two individuals.

8. Have your ever written love poetry? Or love notes?

Coded letters.

9. Do you believe in love at first sight?

No, aesthetics are not important – it is about the character and charisma of the person which takes time to find.

10. What is the most (important) lesson you have learnt through your life, when it comes to love? Please be specific:)

You need to love yourself first.

LOVE Questionnaire #4

1. What is LOVE (in your opinion)?
The strong desire to be with someone else, someone whose shortcomings you are aware of, but quietly accept.

2. Do you believe in love?
Of course, it makes the world go round right??

3. What are your dreams re above?
That I am always surrounded by people that love me for who I am.

4. Who was your (childhood) sweetheart?
Which one?

5. When did you first feel butterflies in your tummy?
In primary school, the boy that lived at the back of me was “lovely” very handsome.
Saw him 40 years later and he still looked alright! haha
I had great taste as a nipper.
6. Were you ever besotted with anyone? Why and for how long?
Yes, loads of people. but the feeling soon passed when they let me down.

7. What has changed for you now (present day) with the word ‘love’?
Love is around the actions people will take to help, support and make your life richer. Talks cheap.

8. Have you ever written love poetry? Or love notes?
No

9. Do you believe in love at first sight?
No- that’s not love, I have to fall in love with someone’s mind. The rest is just window dressing.( Damn, I think Im boring).

10. What is the most (important) lesson you have learnt through your life, when it comes to love? Please be specific:)
Don’t listen to what people say, watch what they do when you need them. Will they put your needs before their own.

LOVE Questionnaire #3

1. What is LOVE (in your opinion)?
it is irrational and wonderful

2. Do you believe in love?
absolutely

3. What are your dreams re above?
none

4. Who was your (childhood) sweetheart?
can’t remember her name

5. When did you first feel butterflies in your tummy?
sorry, can’t remember

6. Were you ever besotted with anyone? Why and for how long?
a girl named Morag when I was 11 . prob. a few weeks

7. What has changed for you now (present day) with the word ‘love’?
I’m trying to be a little more pragmatic as ‘love’ doesn’t always steer me in the right direction

8. Have your ever written love poetry? Or love notes?
sure , the odd love poetry

9. Do you believe in love at first sight?
um, yep but I wouldn’t expect it to be any easier than any other love

10. What is the most (important) lesson you have learnt through your life, when it comes to love? Please be specific:)
love for me is easy so I’m thinking that I need to make more decisions which affect the day to day practical realities

LOVE Questionnaire #2

1. What is LOVE (in your opinion)?

For platonic love: deeply caring for the wellbeing of another person. Connecting with them

on an emotional, and sometimes intellectual, level.

For romantic love: all of the above, with the addition of a physical longing for the object of

your affections, often, although not always, accompanied by a desire to possess that person to

some degree, for them to belong to you, to belong to each other.

When I think of love, I think of romantic love. That’s nice to know, so thank you for the

insight.

2. Do you believe in love?

These days, in the same way an agnostic believes in God, if that makes any sense.

3. What are your dreams re above?

I stopped dreaming about romantic love a few years ago; it just never seems to work out. I

figure if it turns up one day that will be a nice surprise.

4. Who was your (childhood) sweetheart?

The heart surgeon’s son from down the street. We were thirteen. He asked my permission

before he gave me my first kiss. It was a strangely clinical experience; he seemed to be

focused on his technique, which was actually pretty appalling. I eventually decided he loved

his skateboard more than he loved me, which looking back on myself at thirteen is entirely

understandable.

5. When did you first feel butterflies in your tummy?

Primary school. What used to be known as standard 3. Sitting next to a boy called Brett

discussing my science project. I’m sure the butterflies were mine alone. I was a truly

unfortunate looking child.

6. Were you ever besotted with anyone? Why and for how long?

My first proper boyfriend, who I met at age 15. It took me ten years to get over him. I have

no idea why, he was a tosser. I’ll blame adolescent hormonal imbalances.

7. What has changed for you now (present day) with the word ‘love’?

It makes me roll my eyes now.

8. Have your ever written love poetry? Or love notes?

A ghastly poem about the first boyfriend. Cringe. Thankfully I kept it to myself.

9. Do you believe in love at first sight?

Yes. It has happened to me twice.

10. What is the most (important) lesson you have learnt through your life, when it comes to

love? Please be specific:)

I tend to value my freedom more than I value love these days. Specifically, I have learned

that I am not good at compromising; it feels like a defeat and sometimes requires trust that

can be hard to give. Most relationships require some degree of compromise, and I would only

ever want an equal partnership, so this should be a natural part of the deal. It doesn’t come

naturally to me. I have a strong sense of wanting to be fair to others, so this is a stumbling

block; perhaps it makes me see something in myself that I don’t really want to see.

LOVE Questionnaire #1

1. What is LOVE (in your opinion)?
Honesty; attraction; laughter; giving; forgiveness; allowance; support; listening; talking; sharing; beauty; purpose of life.

2. Do you believe in love?
Yes.

3. What are your dreams re above?
I have finally found my life partner who embodies all of the above qualities and allows me to impart those qualities to him. My dream is for us to continue to love one another for the rest of our lives.

4. Who was your (childhood) sweetheart?
Testing my memory!!! Probably Daniel in primary school (aged about 9 or 10).

5. When did you first feel butterflies in your tummy?
Probably the above…??

6. Were you ever besotted with anyone? Why and for how long?
Goodness, yes – several times. Why = hard to define, probably because I unrealistically put those people on a pedestal and also because I have had a tendency to live in my own little world in the past. How long = until the relationship broke off, or if there wasn’t a relationship, until I met someone else.

7. What has changed for you now (present day) with the word ‘love’?
It is now about equality rather than me trying to please them constantly (and usually failing). And also I now allow myself to be loved, and feel less threatened by that notion.

8. Have your ever written love poetry? Or love notes?
Never actually – which surprises myself seeing I am a playwright as well as an actor.

9. Do you believe in love at first sight?
Yes – don’t all females…? 😉

10. What is the most (important) lesson you have learnt through your life, when it comes to love? Please be specific:)
Probably my response to question 7. And to let go of the past when it comes to love – its good and bad experiences – and focus on the present day and future.