1. What is LOVE (in your opinion)?
Love is everything and the only thing. If we don’t operate in love we operate in fear and I don’t want that. I aspire to do everything from a place of love. I love that there is no finite point for love, that you’re never full. It’s expansive and inclusive and there is always room for more. I have so much capacity for love at times it’s overwhelming. I love my friends and family so much I physically feel it.
As for love of the romantic variety, I believe it’s instinctive and is created from a place within our primitive, soul selves. It can be shaped by life but it does not belong in the thinking part of our brain. Love just is. I think as soon as we ask ourselves do I love him or her, the answer is no. If we are in love, it’s a feeling not a thought.
2. Do you believe in love?
Oh yes! I believe in love of a nation, an idea, an animal or a person. Romantic love, I think, is our greatest personal challenge. It’s our opportunity to become the highest person we can be. It’s our individual path to enlightenment, compassion and empathy. It’s the place where the whole future becomes possible. I also believe a few people can fulfil this potential, that we have many soul mates. But I think the prefixes of life dictate timing and our readiness at a soul level. I don’t think there are any “what if” people. I think the ones that got away may have been soul mates but they or you weren’t ready to seize the challenge.
3. What are your dreams re above?
I know I’ll fall in love. I have been in love before and I’ll be in love again. I think true love is a mana thing, that by being together we lift the mana of both of us. But it’s such an honest transaction that I am not interested in the maybe guys, or the almost-love relationships. All in or not at all.
4. Who was your (childhood) sweetheart?
Oh, I was soooooooooooo in love with both my first loves. Love builds our capacity for emotion in both directions, the trick is to keep it in the positive! They made me laugh and brought happiness to my life. I think if it had been medieval times, when teenagers married, I could have made a great and happy marriage with either of them.
5. When did you first feel butterflies in your tummy?
As far back as when I was 8. I had a HUGE crush on someone. I don’t think he ever noticed me, though, and even with the powers of the internet I have no idea where he ended up. I don’t get butterflies now unless it’s someone who really gets under my skin.
6. Were you ever besotted with anyone? Why and for how long?
I wouldn’t say I was ever besotted with someone, at least not in a long term unhealthy way. I think I have high enough self-esteem to give it up when there is a mismatch between effort and reward. I’ll give it a decent crack for a couple of weeks, but if a guy’s not into me, there’s no way I could or would want to force it.
7. What has changed for you now (present day) with the word ‘love’?
I think love in the past used to represent security and lifestyle – you know, marriage, babies, mortgages. Now I would associate it with laughter and freedom. It’s a meeting of mind, heart and soul, where together you are the most powerful beings on the planet. Today, I would want love to mean the planet was our playground and we could literally do anything we set our minds to. I no longer care one iota about marriage, babies and mortgages, in fact, no thank you.
8. Have your ever written love poetry? Or love notes?
Ha…. Yes. Recently wrote a whole bunch of love songs. Love to me is coming home, so the songs were about being home.
9. Do you believe in love at first sight?
Yes, but I don’t think it’s the only love. But yes, definitely. My first boyfriend, was love at first sight. Sigh.
10. What is the most (important) lesson you have learnt through your life, when it comes to love? Please be specific:)
That no one can complete you. You complete you. You merely become the most amazing you that you can possibly be when you fall in love. But it has to start with you already being on the path to realising your potential. Ain’t nobody gonna fix you, yo! Codependence is not love (nor are two names on a mortgage).