Project Whore: Interview #14

1. What are your thoughts on prostitution?
Interestingly, when I was younger, I lived in Amsterdam for about a year. I had a cousin living there. He gave me the guided tour of the Red Light District. Coming from the UK, we didn’t have anything like this. It was 1980 after all. To cut a long story short, it felt more like a tourist attraction with all the girls behind the windows. So there didn’t seem anything untoward about it really. They were just girls making a living. Selling sex. Like selling cigarettes or booze. They paid tax. Had regular health checks and were part of the Amsterdam backdrop. Part of the furniture. However I am more aware now that some of these girls are increasingly being exploited by their “pimps.” I understand that something like 200,00 girls a year are trafficked into the sex trade. Amsterdam being part of that. It wasn’t such an issue back then, but I have learnt that the Red Light District had become more dangerous for girls and customers alike, due to infighting about drugs between gangs. However, recently, the Red Light District has been “cleaned” up and is safer now. My thoughts about prostitution are that, I don’t believe it to be a social or moral problem per se. I believe there should be better controls for the girls (or boys). Treat it like a business and the less unsavoury characters might find it harder to exploit people. I think the sex trade could be run as a health-orientated activity. Like a clinic. Need sex. Got to your sex clinic. You have specific needs?? We can provide that service. There should still be protections in place. For example, don’t have the “clinic” next to a school. Maybe Home Visits. And if it is legal, then the girls don’t have the fear of criminality and then can prosecute those “johns” that misbehave. Making it safer. For customers and girls alike.

2. Have you slept with a sex worker before?
Yes. In Amsterdam. But surprisingly I suppose, never thought about it in the UK. Must have been the exotic atmosphere of the Red Light.

3. Why or why not? 
Why? I was young (early 20’s and thought it was a thing to do. A rite of passage.) In reality I never had a problem finding girls. In the 70’s that was all we did. Party and get laid. No drugs, just motown, sex and booze. Great times. My motivation to sleep with the prostitute was that she was stunning. A physical fantasy if you like. So much more beautiful than any of my girlfriends. She was a bit older. Would have been totally out of my league.

 

4. What does the word ‘whore’ mean to you?
It is a word I might have used to describe someone who would have sex with anyone but also with no sense of dignity. Anyone, anywhere, no regard to health or others opinion. I dislike it now and wouldn’t choose to use it. It is a word in the vocabulary of people with very judgemental attitudes. I hope that I have grown to a point where I recognise people’s behaviours can be put in a more appropriate social context.

5. Do you belief in monogamy?

 

Yes. If monogamy means being married to one person at a time. Do I believe in fidelity? Yes. one girlfriend at a time. I honestly believe in the idea of trust as the cornerstone of a relationship. I would find it difficult to date anyone who confessed to having other boyfriends while dating me. I have had girlfriends that I suppose you could call a “friend with benefits.” We understood we weren’t dating and might not see each other for a while or we lived apart from each other.

6. Have you been solicited to, by a sex worker in the street? Male or female?
Yes. Earls Court, London. She offered a blowjob in a doorway.

7. Do you think sex work is a choice?
Sometimes. My “stunning” prostitute in Amsterdam was French. She told me she could earn much more in 2 12-hour days at the weekend than any other job she might be good at. Plus 95% of the time, she would pick her own customers.

8. Are you heterosexual, bisexual or gay? 
Heterosexual.

9. Are you tempted to pay for sex, if you want to experiment?
I might have years ago. Though having said that, I never have. I am a bit long in the tooth for all that now. Have done pretty much all my experimentation many years ago.

 

 

 

10. Lastly, do you judge others who visit sex workers regularly?

If by “judging”, you mean, do I think of them negatively? No. I might wonder why they might want to do it regularly. Maybe they have difficulties forming relationships. But that is not a reason to “judge” them. I know that a City Council in the UK has sponsored a Disabled 21 year-old with Learning Difficulties to visit a prostitute in Amsterdam as part of the philosophy of allowing the disabled to be more empowered and exercise their Human Rights. Is that wrong? I don’t think so. There are hundreds more examples of people that don’t have the ability to exercise their sexual health in many different ways. Should we deny them access too? So, no, I wouldn’t “judge” them.

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